How difficult people can mine your self-esteem
One of the most important things in the path to self-esteem is to find what are the things in our lives that kill it.
Though I agree to some extent that we should take responsibility for our lives, I’m not a preponement that you create everything that happens to you… rather you co-create with others and the world around you many of the things that happen in your life, but you are not responsible for an earthquake if such happens.
The world offers you experiences and you have opportunities to decide how you want to show up. Sometimes is possible to see difficult circumstances as training environments that helps us develop certain qualities, but most times it can have an negative effect of our well-being and health, in such cases it’s best to change environment and to get outside help.
When you are trying to build your self-esteem you may find that the reason it’s so hard to build it is because there are some people who you can’t avoid letting influence how you feel, due to a very toxic and negative behaviour towards you.
These people may act in quite negative ways towards you, sometimes manipulating, bullying, abusing, overstepping boundaries and treating you with disrespect.
To stay in this sort of environment over time unless you were able to develop a fantastic resilient and thick skin, can worsen your state of being and mind and requires you to take a step of self-care and looking after yourself.
Here are some things you can do in order to empower yourself:
Learn how to communicate clear boundaries and how to become assertive.
Sometimes this will not be easy and the boundaries may not even be respected. For that reason you need to communicate with assertiveness, clarity and inner strength.
Avoid if possible to spend time with those people or cut of contact.
By removing yourself from bad company you allow space for positive loving people to enter your life.
Sometimes it’s not always possible, in such case boundaries and assertiveness are required and learning techniques of dealing with difficult personality types.
A really great recommended book is “The manipulators are among us” by Isabelle Nazare-Aga. In it Isabelle shows practical examples of manipulative conversations and how to effectively defend one’s own boundaries.
Do things that bring you joy, laughter and happiness in the week and take a form of physical exercise.
Work your abdominal area with abs, planks and similar exercises and do strength, resistance exercises like weight lifting as the body affects the mind. The abdominal area will also work your third chakra and help you build self-confidence, assertiveness and get in touch with your power.
Practise Vipassana meditation. This form of meditation teaches to go within and observe thoughts without getting attached to them.
In work environments get informed of HR policies and consult a 3rd party in cases where you feel your mental and emotional health is being affected.
Have a positive plan for your life and work on your goals and self-development.
Having something to look forward to, helps you be resilient and look at the current situation only as temporary
If it’s too hard to get out of the situation you can try to look at it from a spiritual perspective, one where you have an opportunity to learn something and work an aspect of your personality like resilience, being less affected by the world outside without shutting down your feelings, compassion…
If you do this make sure to be in touch with your feelings, don’t fake it till you make it, don’t bypass negative emotions and get help from a professional coach or therapist if necessary. You don’t have to fight life’s battles alone.
Astrology can help find the what is being asked when going through difficult things… often times the difficulties, are super powers being developed in disguise.